You’re a solid couple, happy and in love… you even like each other most of the time - you’re on a roll! You have jobs you like, a space you lovingly call “home,” and a life you’re proud of.
Looking around, you’re grateful not to be experiencing the same lulls and lows as many relationships… yet, the plateau of contentment you’ve found with your partner makes you both a little uneasy.
The good news: What might seem like an issue, is really an opportunity for massive growth. If you’re in a good place in life and love but want to be great, it’s time to start focusing on an untapped superpower: Your relationship!
You’re just three habits away from being a true Power Couple
Tap into the power that’s held within your own partnership, and up-level your lifestyle and your mindset with these three power couple habits.
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1. Express Your Feelings (Power Couples go beyond business talk)
It’s easy to imagine power couples communicating what they think, but what may sneak by is the fact that they also excel at sharing how they feel!
This isn’t something to practice only in times of stress or bliss, but in your day to day life. Expressing feelings about trivial things, such as how the sunny weather delights you or how clutter building up on your dresser makes you tense, helps carve space for true understanding and trust. Having room set aside for communication with compassion leads to extra energy for idea generation, productivity and happiness!
Dr. John Gottman, world-renowned psychological researcher and clinician, found that a healthy relationship is built on a series of components that all revolve around a commitment to fostering loving communication. A relationship built on steady and open communication will be highly-functioning, respectful and supportive.
True communication within your relationship involves the expression not only thoughts, but of feelings to create a foundation for a future without limits.
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2. Envision Success (Power Couples are on that visualization train)
Power couples are more than just doers, they’re dreamers! Couples who excel know the power not only of setting, but of taking the time to visualize their goals.
Research shows imagining highly specific goals impacts our brain patterns and aids in achieving them nearly as strongly as the physical actions we take toward them. When you create shared dreams and goals with your partner, and then actively visualize them, you’re priming your brain for the successful outcome you’ve pictured!
A study on the effect of goal setting in group environments, co-written by Kleingeld, van Mierlo, and Arends for the Journal of Applied Psychology found that groups that established specific goals were able to reach a higher level of success than those who had more simple, non-specific goals. As a couple, you are your own unique, empowered group that will succeed together when you decide together precisely what you want to accomplish!
How you visualize your objectives matters just as much as setting them in the first place. A study at Dominican University by psychologist Gail Matthews tested different ways to envision your goals including thinking about your goals, writing your goals, planning actions, planning actions with mild accountability, and planning actions with detailed accountability. The study found that writing your goals down, announcing your goals publicly, and accountability were key to achieving success. Part of envisioning your goals and actually reaching them is envisioning how you are going to get there. You can dream of grandeur or you can envision a life together where your actions match your ambitions.
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3. Execute Daily (Power Couples create habits for success)
This one’s a no-brainer, but when you’ve got big goals (and we know you two do) this step can trip you up. Power couples take action on their goals, daily!
This doesn’t mean every day is a playoff game, but you should be stretching, studying or practicing, even on your “off days”. These actions can be shared or solo. In fact, it’s important to identify your individual strengths and delegate positions accordingly. Work backward from your goal, set milestones you want to hit, and plan daily actions you can take to make them happen!
If you’re ready to take the leap from good to great in life and love, harnessing the power of your partnership is key!
Stephen Covey, educator, author, businessman and keynote speaker, talks about the daily rituals utilized by successful individuals in his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Covey shows that effective and successful individuals are proactive not reactive. Most of us have heard that, “to achieve goals you’ve never achieved before you need to start doing things you’ve never done before,” it was Covey who gave you that piece of wisdom.
Taking action is just putting into practice the vision you have created for yourselves. You’ve communicated and grown. You’ve envisioned your goals. Now you get to put in the work!
Actions To Take
Carve regular space and time to express your feelings, this will empower you with the skill of compassionate communication. You’ll start hearing your partner more fully, and being fully heard in return. This open line of communication is vital for fresh ideas to flourish, and new dreams to be born! As you define shared goals, don’t forget to envision them, prepping your minds for success. Along with visualizing, you’ll need a plan of action made up of daily steps that will lead you to your ultimate goal.
Tap into the immense potential that’s created through your partnership, and you’ll be well on your way to Power Couple Status. Use this newly cultivated magic to build a more fulfilling, successful life and reach your business, finance, family and personal dreams faster.